Tuesday, April 29, 2008
Mom had a good day with her caregivers. She is watching I Love Lucy now. She enjoys that show, I think it reminds her of when she was younger. She laughs so loudly, it's great.
It's sunny (YAY!) and Mom wants to go sit outside.
Monday, April 28, 2008
In the old days when people studied traditional grammar, we could simply say, “The first person singular pronoun is “I” when it’s a subject and “me” when it’s an object,” but now few people know what that means. Let’s see if we can apply some common sense here. The misuse of “I” and “myself” for “me” is caused by nervousness about “me.” Educated people know that “Jim and me is goin’ down to slop the hogs,” is not elegant speech, not “correct.” It should be “Jim and I” because if I were slopping the hogs alone I would never say “Me is going. . . .” If you refer to yourself first, the same rule applies: It’s not “Me and Jim are going” but “I and Jim are going.”
So far so good. But the notion that there is something wrong with “me” leads people to overcorrect and avoid it where it is perfectly appropriate. People will say “The document had to be signed by both Susan and I” when the correct statement would be, “The document had to be signed by both Susan and me.” Trying even harder to avoid the lowly “me,” many people will substitute “myself,” as in “The suspect uttered epithets at Officer O’Leary and myself.”
“Myself” is no better than “I” as an object. “Myself” is not a sort of all-purpose intensive form of “me” or “I.” Use “myself” only when you have used “I” earlier in the same sentence: “I am not particularly fond of goat cheese myself.” “I kept half the loot for myself.” All this confusion can easily be avoided if you just remove the second party from the sentences where you feel tempted to use “myself” as an object or feel nervous about “me.” You wouldn’t say, “The IRS sent the refund check to I,” so you shouldn’t say “The IRS sent the refund check to my wife and I” either. And you shouldn’t say “to my wife and myself.” The only correct way to say this is, “The IRS sent the refund check to my wife and me.” Still sounds too casual? Get over it.
On a related point, those who continue to announce “It is I” have traditional grammatical correctness on their side, but they are vastly outnumbered by those who proudly boast “it’s me!” There’s not much that can be done about this now. Similarly, if a caller asks for Susan and Susan answers “This is she,” her somewhat antiquated correctness is likely to startle the questioner into confusion.
Thanks for letting me rant. I feel better now.
I think that Mom had a good day today. She seemed really happy when I called her today and later when I came home from work. She still, however, has trouble getting out of her chair at bedtime. Today was a PT day for her, so maybe she was achy from that.
I felt better today. Hopefully I am on the mend.
Sunday, April 27, 2008
My cold is getting better slowly. My tonsils feel better right now too. Mom is getting a little impatient with my coughing though. Every time I cough she asks me if there's something I can do to make myself better.
The sun was out for a short while today. It's still cold though. I can't wait for warm weather. And sunny days.
Saturday, April 26, 2008
The nurse from the home health care agency called to tell me about her visit on Thursday. She said that they weighed Mom. If that weight is correct then Mom has lost 20 pounds since January. The nurse also recommended that I try using Gold Bond Medicated powder for Mom in her creases. She has had some rashes and this might help.
And to top things off, we awoke to a dusting of snow on the grassy areas. This has been a long, drawn out winter. Everyone is ready for a string of nice, warm weather.
Tuesday, April 22, 2008
Sunday, April 20, 2008
This is the NBC Nightly News video about the VA Aid and Attendance benefit.
We just spent the afternoon outside, YES! OUTSIDE! It turned into a beautiful day here after a questionable start. Mom sat on the patio and soaked up some sun and good company with our neighbors and Mom's favorite puppies Satine and Mr. Bailey. I'm ready for a whole string of days like this. Mom is now napping with a smile on her face. I think the fresh air and company wore her out.
Saturday, April 19, 2008
Our weather sucks. We've had one nice day of sun and warmth and the rest has been cool and overcast. I could really go for a string on warm sunny days about now. On the one nice day we had this week Mom's caregiver Terri took her out and they talked to many of our neighbors. Terri said that Mom enjoyed getting out, she just took a little convincing to go.
Monday, April 14, 2008
Our schizophrenic weather is spring-like now. It was so nice not to have to wear a heavy coat. The sun was so warm today, and tomorrow it's supposed to be even warmer. I'm ready.
Mom seemed to have a good day today. She did a little bit of sundowning during Dancing With The Stars but I was soon able to redirect her attention. I miss my Mom so much, yet I am so grateful that I have her with me. Every day we are together is a blessing.
Sunday, April 13, 2008
I was reading about something called an Alzheimer's garden in one of the many newsletters that I receive. It allows the person with ALZ to wander through a garden safely; a wonderful concept I think.
I think I've figured out that when Mom is bored she will ask questions repeatedly so I try to divert her attention and that seems to help. She was restless last night I think because she napped during the day off and on.
The sun is out today, finally. It's still pretty cool though. I noticed that our crabapple trees have buds that are poised to burst open as soon as we get a stretch of nice weather. I can't wait.
Friday, April 11, 2008
We dodged a bullet today. So far we've only gotten rain. What little snow we did get has melted away already. But north of here they got walloped. Especially in Duluth where the entire city was shut down because of blizzard conditions. This winter just refuses to remove it's grip from the midwest. I am ready for sunshine and warmth. I hope that we don't dive right from this to hot, humid weather with no spring.
Wednesday, April 9, 2008
Guess what's in the forecast for tomorrow? You guessed it, that four-letter word SNOW! ICK! If the weather report is correct we could get up to 6 inches between tomorrow afternoon and Friday.
Monday, April 7, 2008
Meanwhile our weather continues to suck. It was cold and rainy today, with the occasional snowflake. I'm ready for daffodils and tulips, not snow flurries! Enough already.
Saturday, April 5, 2008
Yesterday we also had a dentist's appointment. I always used to feel like the dentist was chastising me for not taking better care of Mom's teeth. This dentist, who is also my dentist, was very understanding and helpful, as was the hygienist. Mom visits every 4 months for a thorough cleaning. She's very patient although yesterday she had a lot of plaque and tartar that needed to be removed and it was painful. She said her mouth was fine last night though so there doesn't seem to be any lingering tenderness.
We visited with Mr. Bailey and George before we left for our appointment. Mom loves Mr. Bailey (our neighbor's dog) so it was fun. Mr. Bailey spent the last 3 months traveling with his parents in their RV.
I have been thinking very hard about the move to the ALF. At this point I'm thinking that I will wait because now that spring is here I feel able to handle this better. I'm hesitant though because the room is awesome, but I know there will be more vacancies.
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Thursday, April 3, 2008
Here are some pictures of the room. It's really cute and has a small sun porch. Right now there is an armoire in the middle of the room from the previous occupant. The room and the sun porch look out over the woods and a courtyard with a fountain. I'm told that all sorts of wildlife can be seen from this room. I'm torn. I really like the vibe in the two facilities that I've heard from. Oh what to do?
It was sunny and near 60 today. Everyone has spring fever. I saw people wearing shorts and flip flops, the proverbial first sign of spring in Minnesota. Tomorrow Mom has a dental appointment in the morning after which I'm going to try to do something fun with her, she deserves it now that spring is here.
Most exciting news today? The purple slipper was returned with the lift. It's about 3/4 inches higher than the right slipper and Mom does seem to be more even now when she walks. This is good news.
Finally, I've included a picture of our kitties, eating their dinner side by side. Who'd have thought this would ever happen?
Wednesday, April 2, 2008
Today I ordered an Alzheimer's Champions hoodie from the Alzheimer's Association website. It's purple, my favorite color, and it's for a good cause.
I wasn't able to watch the PBS program on Caring for Your Parents, but I noticed that they will have it available to view online beginning tomorrow so I will watch it that way. Tonight we watched the Osmond Family 50th Anniversary on DVD. Mom really enjoyed that and she marveled that 'that woman (Marie) has so many brothers!' Mom kept counting all of them when they were onstage. It was cute.
Our snow from Monday's storm has nearly melted away. I can't wait for my strawberries to arrive so that I can begin planting them. Goodbye Winter!
Tuesday, April 1, 2008
I had a cell phone message yesterday. The assisted living facility that is closest to our home has two studios available. I am going to stop by to take a look at them tomorrow after work. I'm torn over this because right now Mom is doing fairly well. This will be a difficult decision. Someone asked me today if Mom had seen the facility (she has) and whether she knows about the possible move (she doesn't). How do I break it to her? I'm not sure that she is at a point where she can participate in the decision process. But it just doesn't feel right to exclude her from the process. I'm trying to take this in baby steps but it's hard. It's just feels like a betrayal.