Monday, December 22, 2008

Mom Is Doing OK

Tonight it took two hours to get home. I haven't been to see Mom since Saturday (I took this picture) and I feel guilty about that. I spoke to the hospice nurse today. Mom was agitated today and did not eat more than a few bites of food. I hate that she is going through this. I wish I could do more to comfort her.

Today I am at peace with our decision to move Mom to assisted living. Tomorrow it may be different but today I know that she would not be getting the best care possible, let alone the fact that I couldn't do it, at home.

It is so cold here now and we are supposed to get even more snow overnight. All of this snow and cold is getting really old.


~Betsy said...

Cut yourself some slack about visiting every day, Robyn. When the work day is long, the snow is flying and the traffic snarled, sometimes it's all we can do to get home in one piece. Tomorrow's another day.

Hang in there.

Cinnamin said...

oh Robyn! When I saw the title of this post I thought the worst and all I could think was "NO"! I was happy to see this photo and read your words here and then the voice screaming "no" in my mind could quiet down.

I am sorry to see that your Mom is not doing well, but you are right, she is being taken care of, she is safe and she is loved.

Sending ((hugs)) to you - And to your Mom as well!

Lily said...

Betsy is right. I don't know for sure, but I suspect that your mum's sense of the passing of time is not as precise as yours. She may well be living in the moment, not able to distinguish 5 minutes ago from 5 days ago. You are doing your best. If your mum were well again, she would tell you so.

rilera said...

Sorry to scare you Cinn. I've updated the title.

Betsy and Lily, you are the best. I so appreciate your advice and support (and you too Cinn!).

Annie said...

I agree with Betsy, don't be so hard on yourself. This weather has been nuts. Merry Christmas to you and your Mom!

jutka said...

You're doing the best thing for her Robyn! God bless you.

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