Thursday, December 4, 2008

Deeply Disturbing

This story is appalling beyond belief. I've been haunted by this since it broke in late summer and it made me very upset and even more reluctant to place Mom. I would find it hard to control my rage around these individuals. They should be forced to register as sex offenders. The fact that they believed this treatment 'made their jobs more fun' angers me to no end.

8 comments:

~Betsy said...

This is horrible and somehow I don't think the one girl will ever learn - look at her father's statement about her "just doing her job". Yeah, it's part of a CNA's job description to poke elderly women in their breasts and hit them in their genitals.

I wish one of the residents would have hauled off and thumped them.

rilera said...

Yes, can you believe it? 'She was just doing her job'. She had better never cross my path. Either of them. Our loved ones are not animals, their human beings with amazing histories.

Cinnamin said...

Absolutely disgusting! I can’t even begin to imagine what I would want to do to these CHILDREN if that had been one of MY parents. Unreal. I wonder what ever would make anyone want to hurt another person, especially an elderly person who is in such a vulnerable position. Where is the compassion? Where is the respect? What is wrong with people?!? This is just scary!

Lily said...

Its stories like these that convince my mum that every care home is the same, a place of degradation and misery. She constantly makes me promise I'll never "shove" her in a home. I hope I never have to make that decision because no matter how nice the home is, my mum will be terrified. Why don't the media give some publicity to good examples of care homes instead of focusing on the nightmares?

J said...

This stuff makes me sick. We worry are we doing the right thing but we know that they need more care than we can give them... so it's a vicious cycle of worry. (((HUGS))) to all of us going thru this and worrying for our loved ones. All I know to do is keep in the staff's mind that her family is in and out at different times with family friends checking in as to how she is doing. They never know when one of us decides to come back and spend the night and they know I check her body. I let my wheel squeak loud without being a nuisance and having them think I'm a B***h and taking it out on mom. They know from experience that our mom's not jkust an object stuck in their care to be rid of her. That's all I can do... but I still worry is she OK.
We just all have to hang in there and do what we can when we can.... that's all we humanly can do.

Anonymous said...

Instead of branding them and putting them in jail, maybe they could be compelled to spend time in a nursing home as residents. OT and PT could equip them with suitable accessories to hinder their physical and sensory abilities to that of an 80 year old with severe arthritis. They could be monitored by video 24/7 to make sure they followed their sentence to the letter, extending their sentences by twice the time if violating orders. They would then be forced to rely on staff 100% to meet their needs, including being fed, toileted, bathed, groomed, dressed, moved. This could be stretched out over a year. When their time was up, they would never be the same again. Best case scenario would be that they learn empathy for others and are truly sorry for what they've done. The entire time of this sentence, they would live with the fear of having things done to them that they have done to others - just from spite or spirit of payback.

I think that this would be an effective way to teach them some lessons they would never be able to forget. Especially as everyone of us, regardless of our age, is truly only an accident or illness away from the possibility of becoming a total care dependent person.

If they go to prison, they will continue to have the freedom to walk, use the toilet, feed themselves, use the phone, watch TV, use a computer, read books, etc. Then when they get out, what then?

rilera said...

Anonymous, I really do like your idea. Maybe then they would understand just how truly horrible what they did is.

Joanne said...

Disgusting little twits! I, too, like anons suggestion as to how to handle these young monsters. I doubt they have any respect for their own parents or grandparents.

Certainly makes me think twice about decisions that I thought of making.