Sunday, August 24, 2008

What to Do?

How do we surreptitiously pack up and move Mom's stuff without her getting suspicious? That is the latest thing that we are wrestling with. If anyone has any suggestions please let me know.

Mom had a rough night last night. She wanted to go to bed at 8:00 PM but then she was up at 10:30 PM and later at midnight, 1:00 and 3:00. She was up at 5:00 again. I don't know if she was dreaming or what but she was crying out throughout the night. I asked her if she was in pain or if she hurt anywhere and she would say no. I'm not sure what was going on, most likely something related to the ALZ.

We are using the wheelchair to get her around. This is especially hard when she needs to use the bathroom. She seems to have forgotten how to get up. It can take several minutes to gently persuade her to stand up. I also think she is afraid of falling. It's sort of like a kid who has hurt himself; rather then acting upset the parent brushes it off and then the kid doesn't cry. Unfortunately I tend to get panicky and freaked when Mom falls and she has chosen to remember this. This is my theory anyway.


cornbread hell said...

gosh. i don't know.

sounds like it's time to at least start talking about it with her.

i think my sisters took my mom out somewhere while i moved stuff. but we had a very different situation than you have.

Annie said...

Sounds like you had a rough night too then. You ok?

nancy said...

can you only pack the bare minimum to get her over there and then bring the rest later? or if you have to det her furniture there as well, can you or someone else take her out for a few hours and then take her there and have someone else move the furniture?

with your mom's decline, it sounds like the timing is right for you on this. when will the actual move in be?

~Betsy said...

I have read many times that the best way is to do as Nancy has said. There's a mailing list I belong to and they are really seasoned at this sort of thing.

Go to

Join the list and introduce yourself. Geri, the resident expert, can advise you and send you information which should help with the move.

I lurk there now, but participated when Mom was still living. Let me know how it goes.

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