Sunday, November 25, 2007

Today we visited 2 more memory care facilities. Both of us liked these 2 as well as one from yesterday. The big dilemma now is to decide how many waiting lists we would like to be put on. Each facility charges to be put on the waiting list.

Last night Mom awoke at 12:30 AM with some weirdness going on. I'm still not sure what the problem was. I had given her half of a muscle relaxant before bed (I cleared this with the pharmacist based upon all of her medications first), I wonder if she had a drug interaction. I won't be giving her that again. It was scary and we were up until 4:30 AM. I gave her a banana just in case it was a muscle cramp (she hasn't been eating her banana daily).

To top things off, Joyce let me know that she needs 24 hours notice when Mom is going to cancel. I guess we will be using the bus sooner than I thought.

This sucks so much. I feel a gamut of emotions, but I know I can't go on like this much longer.


~Betsy said...

This must be such a difficult time for you, Robyn. I'm sorry you are facing this but glad you are recognizing the need. There is no shame in placement - sometimes it's the right answer.

I am so glad to hear your sister is involved and on board. This is too much of a burden to carry alone. (((hugs)))

nancy said...

ditto what betsy said. i thinking and praying for you as well.

flintysooner said...

I recall so vividly when I toured facilities way back when my mom was sick. It was so emotionally draining and I was already depleted anyway. I really feel for you.

The disease is so unpredictable moment by moment and day by day. And the drugs are unpredictable, too. It is always hard to know whether something contributed to something else. No one can really understand unless they've been there.


Annie said...

I'm thinking of you.

cornbread hell said...

i sure don't envy the decision making and emotions you're having to go through now.

we chose the facility mom's in largely because of its close proximity to where i live. that has turned out to be a big plus for all concerned.
i even toured a place in my sister's town over thanksgiving and liked it a lot, but...even though it's almost a thousand bucks a month cheaper, i'd hate for her be that far away.

i think you're *lucky* to have found several good options. hang in there. ((hugs))

rilera said...

Thanks everyone for your kind words and thoughts. It's nice to know you are all out there for support and advice.

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